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Stepping Back From Over-parenting: A Stanford Dean's Perspective

My mother - who had a hard life - tried to protect me from every possible danger. It did more harm than help to me. I became strongest when I joined the Army. In basic training, I was talked to badly, made to do things that really stretched what I thought I could do, and had nobody to support me (except a three minute call once every few weeks). It was one of the best things to happen to me!

As a high school teacher, I see some parents who bring their child's forgotten lunch, jacket, water bottle, etc. None of these items - when missing - will cause harm to the student. I see this even in juniors and seniors. Seniors are often just six months away from being able to fight for our country, get married, have kids, etc. I recently heard this podcast and found it very informative. You may agree or disagree with me or the Stanford dean, but I encourage you to listen.

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Description of the podcast...

"Parents are essential to a child’s development. But when parents get too involved in helping and directing a child’s every move, they can end up doing more harm than good. Former Stanford dean of freshman Julie Lythcott-Haims saw first-hand how parents were interfering with the lives of their college-aged children and keeping them from maturing into self-reliant adults."


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